Dear Jan, You're on the plane to Madrid right now. It's the best decision you've made so far, and you've tended towards good decisions. But, well, you've been cautious and safe. Just know: Take more chances. Stroll those magnificent streets and alleys. Learn old people's names and all their stories. Master the cooking. Imitate the regional dances. Make Madrid your playground. Remember: parks every day. Sleep under the stars more on your tiny little balcony. Flirt with the men when you dance, and walk home with your best girfriends, one at each house in those streets you'll grow to love. Spend more time with families who embrace you as one of their own. You'll do these, I assure you, but do more. Dive in and keep taking those chances. You'll look back on this with great love. So beautiful and strong and independent already, be so - just more.